“The Heart knows that if it wants
to be a lover
it has to give up the mind’s list
of expectations because to be a lover
means to again surrender
it means to infuse yourself
with someone else
so it is not anymore “about me”…
“I am a Lover” says the Mind
“I am a Lover” says the Heart
and they go in opposite direction
“I AM A LOVER” the mind says
and when the mind says that
it forgets that to be a lover
the mind cannot be there
therefore when the mind says
“I AM A LOVER” …and I want to be with someone to love
what the mind really means
is that I want to be with someone
so that I can do and be anything I want
and beloved
the mind always creates separation
it cannot act differently
and so when the mind
think about “I am a lover”
it is still thinking about the “me” …”me”
and therefore as soon the lover
does not play accordingly to the “me” curriculum
to the “me” agenda
then she or he is not a good lover
and so the mind will let go
and look for another lover
when the heart says “I AM A LOVER” and I want someone to love
the heart is not concern about “me”
because the heart does not create separation
the heart navigates naturally towards oneness
and so when the hearts says “I AM A LOVER” and I want a lover, I want some one to love
what the hearts means is: I want to disappear,
I want to surrender
the mind cannot even is it says so, it can never do that
because to surrender means to be in a situation
where there is no mind
for as long as the mind is there
we cannot be lovers
the mind when it says I want a lover
it just want to have everything it wants
the mind is not open to change
the mind says: when I find a lover
I get to do anything I want
because she or he will love me unconditionally
and therefore i can be anything I want
because that’s what love is
some one who just always give me what I want
so i can change my moods all the time
he or she will understand because he or she will love me
and so I get to do anything I want
that’s love
if the lover does not give me anything I want
then he or she does not love me
so I am going to find another lover
someone that has all I want and can give me all I want
and then I will be happy
the mind when looks for a lover
is looking for someone that reinforce
the mind, that feeds the mind
the Heart when looks for a lover
goes in the opposite direction
the Heart knows that if it wants to be a lover
it has to give up the mind’s list of expectations
because to be a lover means to again surrender
it means to infuse yourself with someone else
so it is not anymore “about me” and what I need
the Heart knows that to be a Lover requires
to face all the fears of the mind
when the heart comes next to a lover
the mind immediately feels fear
because the mind knows that
if the heart wants to
decide to be a lover there will be no space for the mind
and so the mind come up strong
and start to give signals
sabotaging signals
and start to look for external reasons
to make sure that the love does not truly occur
the mind has to do that
if it wants to survive
it is just a survival mechanism
the heart when decides to be a lover
and decides to be with a lover
knows that is going to be a lot of work
not because love implies work
that is not the reason
it is because again the mind will kick and scream at the heart
and will do everything is possible
to change direction
and so the heart finds a lover
and starts to surrender to it
and the mind starts to create problems
this lovers does not give me what I want
you see, he does not love me, she does not love me
because I do not get to do everything I want
this is not love
lets go over there
I think over there is love
the mind says
meaning I thing that situation is going
to get me everything I want
rather then this one, this one scares me
because is so powerful
that I will have to give up
no, no, no, I cannot do that
it scares me
please heart
look how thing here are
this situation is not good
he or she does not really love us
because
by communing with this individual
we do not get to do everything we want
quite the opposite, we get to be
in a space where it si not about what we want
it is about
what we truly are
it is about giving up our mind related needs
and to fully embrace
Oneness
the mind cannot allow that to happen
and so the mind will find ways to get out of it
the mind is extremely astute
and will convince eventually the heart
if the heart is still not strong
it will convince the heart that that situation is wrong
and it will direct the heart the heart
towards other situations
that are more conveniently
aligned with “I get to do everything i want”
“I get to do everything i want”
and the mind will attract one lover after the other
and every time it comes close to the idea of disappearing
the mind will sabotage, will get out
and again it will find some one else, and some one else, and some one else,..
at certain point the heart
will have to have a serious talk with the mind
the heart will say to the mind
I love you
you do not have to be so afraid
just trust me
it is going to be ok
you are not going to have to completely disappear
you just have to find the right space
your space is not
a space of dominance
space si not a space of leadership
you forgot about what is your real space
I am going to love you
and gently balance you to what you are suppose
to really be
you are not suppose to take the place of the heart
it will never work
if you take the place of the heart
we will both die
therefore I am going to take over from now on
and I will not allow you to
sabotage anymore
our chance to be lovers
I am going to attract a lover
and I am going to deeply surrender to her or to him
and when you feel fear
I will talk to you
I will show you that there is nothing to be afraid of
but you will have to
position yourself
in the right spot
you are not meant to dominate
you are not meant to take charge
you are not equipped to do that
if you take charge there will be only separation
and eventually self distraction
the heart
the heart is the one that is in charge
you still have a very important role
because when you will fully be in harmony
you will wonderfully operate
so that the physical experience can function properly
but you will not have the power
to drive
to decide where which direction to go
your power is the power of the engine
not the power of the driver
therefore my wonderful mind
I am here to tell you that I love you
and I am here to tell you that you will always be
but you have to go back to where you belong
and when you will do that
everything will go perfectly….

Photos: “Dancing Crops”
Words, music and photography by Marco Missinato
Music:
“Remembering” – Music by Marco Missinato
“Crystal Spirals” (part 4) – Music by Marco Missinato